— John Oldham, MD
Past President of the American Psychiatric Association (APA)
"Tami Green is an inspiration to us all, demonstrating that with courage, persistence, and the right treatment, persons with Borderline Personality Disorder can recover. Her mission, to spread the word that new research supports a picture of optimism and hope, is just the right one."
TAMI GREEN borderline personality disorder test
3. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self.
(We aren’t capable of, or trying to be, manipulative. It’s just that we are sooo emphatic, so loving, and so disconnected from our own selves, that we easily see your point over ours. We feel so frustrated we lash out at inappropriate times. -Tami)
Identity disturbance is the second interpersonal symptom. This symptom has not been clearly defined, but it generally refers to frequent and suddenly changing goals, beliefs, vocational aspirations and sexual identity, as well as a painful sense of incoherence. Patients may also feel as if they are assuming the identity of other people to whom they are close.
The identity disturbance seen in this disorder should be differentiated from the normal identity issues one sees in adolescents. Being unable to define an identity on one’s own and instead being dependent on interpersonal relationships to define one’s identity, as well as frequent fluctuations or a sense of incoherence in one’s identity, are more strongly associated with borderline personality disorder than with typical adolescent identity issues..* According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition by the American Psychiatric Association, this is one of the nine criteria used to diagnosis BPD.
Conclusion: Once we connect with our true selves and stabilize internally, then we stabilize emotionally and all our relationships improve. This was so key to my recovery, and not something many therapists can help with. Learning to self-validate, while validating others, is so important to recovery. You can learn, get better, and improve your relationships. I can help.
TAMI GREEN, before recovery:
"Tami Green's life story of Borderline Personality Disorder recovery offers hope and inspiration.”
— BLAISE A. AGUIRRE, MD
STAFF PSYCHIATRIST AT MCLEAN HOSPITAL AND AN INSTRUCTOR IN PSYCHIATRY AT HARVARD MEDICAL SCHOOL
"Tami is supportive of others, listens carefully, and provides excellent information”
— ANTHONY W. BATEMAN, MD
CONSULTANT PSYCHIATRIST IN PSYCHOTHERAPY AT UNIVERSITY COLLEGE, LONDON
"Tami Green…is to be applauded for her banner of hope… that a happy, meaningful life with BPD is possible."
— PERRY HOFFMAN, PHD
PRESIDENT, THE NATIONAL EDUCATION ALLIANCE FOR BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER (NEA-BPD)